i have been absolutely loving being a dad and this new season of life. so so so so fun! the coolest thing lately has been watching adelina smile voluntarily (not that fake, “i-can’t-help-it” kinda way”).
but even as cool as it is, and even though when i’m home i never wanna leave, i know how easy it still is to overwork and give too much of my time to the church. andy stanley summed it up a few years ago here by challenging us with this tension. here’s a small bit, head there for the rest:
I’d like to tell you about the best leadership decision I’ve ever made. It came back in 1995 when we decided to launch North Point Community Church. My wife, Sandra, and I had two kids at that time, both of which were in diapers, and she was pregnant with our third child.
If you’ve ever started a church, you know it is extraordinarily time intensive. You’re never done. Whenever you go home, there is stuff left to do. And yet I found myself in this stage of life where there was more to do at home than there had ever been. So I found myself in this awful dilemma. There was not enough time to do everything, and there wasn’t enough time to be who I needed to be as a leader of this brand new organization, as a father of two little boys, and the husband of a wife who was pregnant and doing her best to support me emotionally through a very difficult transition. I found myself sitting alone one afternoon thinking, I can’t do all of this.
The “Work” Paradox
Think of the dilemma: If you stayed at work (and the “work” could be business or church) until you got every single thing done that you needed to get done and were just far enough ahead to where you could actually enjoy the next day, you’d never go home, right?
If you stayed at home until everybody at home got the time and attention they wanted, you’d never go to work! Never once have my kids said to me, “Dad, I think we’ve played enough. Why don’t you go on in the house and see if you can get some work done.” That has never happened, and it never will.
i love the courageous decision he made to set a radical boundary by coming home every day at 4:30, and in these early days with adelina, the whole article was a good reminder and challenge. you’re gonna cheat one of them… don’t let it be your family!